Whether you’ve suddenly found yourself flying solo or have been doing so for some time, every woman will experience being single at some point in her life, whether for a period so short that you’d miss it if you were to blink, or for an extended amount of time.
While for many women, being in a relationship is the ultimate goal, an increasing number are finding growing enjoyment in living the single life, with complete freedom to do exactly as they choose without having to worry about somebody else. From travelling the world to moving to a new city, there’s a lot to love about being single – and with evenings and weekends freed up to relax at home or head out to dinner with friends, it can often work wonders for one’s social life.
If you’re currently single and are finding it more of a pain than a pleasure, then you’re not alone – but taking some time to think about what you can do alone rather than what you can’t do as part of a couple is a sure-fire way to shift your mindset. Learning to enjoy your own company is the key to getting the most out of this time, so if you’re not sure where to start then we’ve got you covered.
One of the best things about being single is the freedom to make spontaneous decisions, and from booking a one-way, First Class flight to Asia to going on a mammoth solo shopping spree with only your credit card for company, there is nobody to stop you from doing exactly as you please (or politely advise against it).
Whilst it’s true that many experiences feel richer when you have someone to enjoy them with, solo travel offers many benefits in itself, and is a chance to meet new people, make new friends and see the world at your own pace.
For many, it’s also a journey of self discovery, and will help you to learn many things about yourself. So, if you don’t have any dates lined up and your calendar is looking free, then why not take the plunge?
Satisfy yourself regularly
You don’t really need a partner in order to feel satisfied in the bedroom, and these days, there are more than enough ways to achieve the same result yourself. Taking some solo time to experiment with different sex toys can be an enjoyable experience that gives you full control from start to finish – and from love eggs to the latest dildo, the options are endless.
Not only is self pleasure a great way to find out what you truly like in bed, but it’s an indulgent pastime that you can totally pass off as your regular dose of self care, so schedule it into your week, guilt free.
Be the best version of yourself
Being single gives you the opportunity to focus on yourself and to learn more about who you are and what kind of person you want to be. Before you can be a loving partner to someone, you need to love yourself first, and when you’re single you have plenty of time to focus on being the best version of yourself. Do whatever makes you happy without worrying about what other people might think of you.
Spend time with your friends and family and do good things for yourself, and implement grounding practices such as movement and meditation into your day. Taking time to focus on personal development and diving into some inspiring books and podcasts can often lead to the mindset shift you’ve been searching for.
Once you feel truly happy with yourself, you’ll naturally begin to attract potential partners, whether you want one or not – so put aside the dating apps, take time out for yourself and let the universe work its magic while you learn to love yourself from the inside, out.